The victim trap of engineering managers

Engineering managers often fall into the drama triangle during conflicts or stressful situations, taking roles such as victim, villain, and hero. This mindset can prevent effective problem-solving and keep teams in reactive loops. To avoid this, managers should recognize when they are in a victim mindset, try to understand the perspective of others involved, and focus on outcomes rather than problems. Shifting from a victim to a creator mindset can lead to proactive improvements and better overall team performance.