Most 1:1 meetings waste protected synchronous time on status updates that belong in writing. Effective 1:1s should focus on five categories: career growth, coaching and problem-solving, feedback and calibration, human connection, and clearing the air. Preparation matters — both parties should maintain a shared running agenda with context-rich items. During the meeting, managers should ask questions more than give answers, make space for unsaid topics, and end with documented next steps. Common anti-patterns include the ghost meeting (no preparation), cancellation cascades, manager monologues, and reverse 1:1s where the report briefs the manager. Skip-level 1:1s are also valuable for organizational visibility. The practices that make a great 1:1 mirror those that make distributed teams work well.
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What belongs in a 1:1 #How to prepare #How to run one #Skip-levels: why they matter #Anti-patterns to avoid #The real test #Sort: